broken – Never had a white picket fence

Therapy

My husband had told me he would not do couples therapy with me while we were “trying”. After I was in the hospital I told him I needed to do therapy together. There were too many things left unsaid. My mind was too jumbled. I was too lost, hurt and confused without him. He agreed…

Magnolia

I’m not talking about the Tom Cruise movie or the Joanna Gaines line. I’m talking about the magnolia trees as they bloomed this spring. Every single first without my husband has sent me into a tailspin, and I know it will continue but springtime threw me into one headfirst. Springtime is supposed the time of…

Odd man out

By: Okate April 28, 2021April 28, 2021

Uncategorizedall the little things, blended family, broken, broken heart, broken home, broken soul, broken women, husband, what i did wrong, where did he go, where do I go from hereLeave a Comment

So, as it turned out everyone knew about each other but me. I couldn’t quite wrap my head around it. Their relationship was described to me by the boyfriend as “an open relationship but she was the only one living it,”. Him and I spent an oddly intimate Christmas Eve together on the phone and…

No time like the first time

While I was in the psych ward, I started spotting. Not a lot, but enough that I noticed. At first I thought maybe I had another kidney stone. I had no pain, just this annoyance of bleeding. I’ve had an IUD since my child was born a million years ago (19 at this point) obviously…

I’m crazy for trying and crazy for crying

The biggest road block to going “home” was not having one to go to. I was going “home” to mom’s condo. My life was still imploded. My life IS still imploded. Not one thing that has happened have I asked for, or wanted. My husband made all the decisions for me and wanted them implemented.…

So lonely

I didn’t want to get admitted to that tertiary care hospital, but I sure didn’t want to risk a whole weekend of being stuck in the emergency room. They listened to my concerns about why I didn’t want to be admitted there, that my smaller hospital was part of the same healthcare system and I…

Crazy for feeling

You know when you have those lightbulb moments? I had one last November that was not a shining one. I had officially hit rock bottom in my life. I hope I never go lower than I did then. My friend had to bring me to the emergency room because I went on a hunger strike…

C’mon down!

The next two weeks I felt like overall things were getting better. I even bounded down the stairs one morning straight into his arms and told him we were going to be alright. I couldn’t have been more wrong. We had our moments, but it felt like we were doing ok, making improvements. He was…

Something new, something old, something borrowed and something blue

We didn’t want a big gala for our wedding. At least I didn’t. If I had my way, we would have just gone down to the courthouse and gotten married, just him and him. He told me I could do whatever I wanted. Money was no limit. You may recall I had said before I…

Birthday Blowout

I have always looked forward to my birthday; counted down to it for over a month. This year I did not. I was not feeling exuberant about it. As with most everything that had been going on, I felt like it was going to be a big let down. I wasn’t prepared for the let…

Whale Whale Whale

I’ve been to Hawaii twice. I think it’s a magical place. The biggest reason I think it’s magical is because of the whales. I know, there are whales all over the world. Hawaii was the first place I got a taste of their majestic beauty and the abundance of them. I had gone with my…

Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones

End of September. I was just starting to feel better, just starting to get my appetite back. Just starting to drink more. Just starting to feel like normal married couple again. I’d gotten into work early one morning. I suddenly had excruciating lower abdominal pain. Is my appendix bursting? Do I have a bowel obstruction?…

Big Picture

This is where my memory starts getting a little dicey. I want to remember all those moments we were together those last months as best I can, even if they were bad, because I do love him. Don’t forget, even if it’s crazy, even if I am crazy, he is my husband, I do love…

First heartbreak

As a mother, you think that your child is always going to love you unconditionally. You know in the back of your mind, that this isn’t really true. I knew from the moment mine was born with those big cerulean, to turn brown eyes, I was hooked. It was an addictive love that I was…